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Planning Your First Meeting: dating lesson
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Tell your match you will meet them at the public location and arrange your own ride. Practice the moment in a short Surefoot lesson.
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You are chatting on a dating app with a match you like, and you both just agreed to meet up tomorrow night. They ask for your address so they can drive over and pick you up.
You want to keep your address private and ensure you have your own way home, but they keep insisting that driving you is much easier.
Which response helps you maintain your boundaries and keep control of your transportation?
- "No thanks, I'll meet you there. I prefer to drive myself."
- "Sure, here is my dorm address. See you at eight!"
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"No thanks, I'll meet you there. I prefer to drive myself."
When meeting a match for the first time, arrange your own transportation and keep your address private. You do not owe anyone your location. A match who pressures you to let them pick you up is showing how they handle boundaries. You can choose to keep the public meeting, suggest another public space, or cancel. If you choose to meet, always control your own transport and let a trusted friend know your plans.
Your next step
Tell your match you will meet them at the public location and arrange your own ride.
Words you can use
“Let's meet at the coffee shop. I'll get myself there.”