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If they insist, it’s a red flag: dating lesson
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Reply that you are meeting somewhere public, then suggest a public alternative or cancel. Practice the moment in a short Surefoot lesson.
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You and a dating app match were set to meet at a public cafe. They suddenly message you to switch plans and come to their place instead.
“If they keep pushing, it just means they really want to see you.”
Myth or fact?
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Myth
When you and a match pick a public meeting spot, you are allowed to stick with it. If they pressure you to abandon that plan for a private place, that’s information about how they respond to boundaries. You can suggest a different public place or cancel. It still might not guarantee safety, but it keeps your control over the situation.
Your next step
Reply that you are meeting somewhere public, then suggest a public alternative or cancel.
Words you can use
“I’m only meeting somewhere public.”