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Tell a trusted friend and arrange a safe ride
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Tell a trusted friend you are leaving and use a ride you trust. Practice the moment in a short Surefoot lesson.
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It is late at the same party. You stayed with your group, but now you are tired and ready to head back to campus. Your ride is not leaving yet.
Your friend wants to stay, but you want to go home.
How can you leave with support?
- Tell a trusted friend and arrange a safe ride.
- Accept a ride from whoever offers first.
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Tell a trusted friend and arrange a safe ride.
Make the change in plan clear. Use a trusted ride option and avoid an impaired driver. You do not need proof that someone is dangerous before choosing to leave. Familiarity and popularity do not replace respect for your boundaries.
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Tell a trusted friend you are leaving and use a ride you trust.
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“I am heading out. Can you help me get home?”
Sources: RAINN
Questions about “You’re allowed to leave.”
How can I ask a friend to help me get home safely in my own words?
You can state your boundary clearly and ask for assistance by saying, "I am heading out. Can you help me get home?" Being direct about your choice to leave makes your intention clear to others while allowing a trusted friend to help you arrange a safe ride or watch you get to your vehicle securely.
Source: RAINN
What should I avoid doing when trying to find a ride home late at night?
You should avoid accepting a ride from the first person who offers if you do not know them well or if you suspect they are impaired. Relying on an unknown or unsafe driver just to leave quickly puts your safety at risk, so it is better to pause and secure a verified, trusted transport option.
Source: RAINN
How can I support a friend who wants to leave a party before the rest of the group?
You can support a friend who wants to leave by respecting their boundary without guilt, helping them secure a trusted ride, and ensuring they reach their destination safely. Checking in on them as they leave or offering to walk them to a designated pick-up spot ensures they do not have to navigate a potentially unsafe transition alone.
Source: RAINN
Last updated October 11, 2026.