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Lessons on leaving a situation
Decline and stay close: leaving a situation lesson
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Move closer to a friend and say you are staying with your group. Practice the moment in a short Surefoot lesson.
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You are at an off-campus party with your friends when someone you just met asks you to leave the group and go somewhere private with them. You would rather stay with your group.
A person you just met says, “Come with me upstairs real quick,” but you’d rather stay with your group. What do you do next?
What is a useful next step?
- Stay with your group and decline. Move closer to a friend if they keep pushing.
- Go with them because they seemed nice or confident.
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Stay with your group and decline. Move closer to a friend if they keep pushing.
You do not need to accuse them or justify your choice. If you want to stay with your friends, stay where you feel comfortable and decline the invitation with a simple line. If they keep pushing, move closer to a friend and ask them to stay with you. Being interested in someone does not mean you have to be alone with them.
Your next step
Move closer to a friend and say you are staying with your group.
Words you can use
“I’m staying with my friends.”