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Be the friend who notices: Get staff or security to help
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Find staff or security and tell them what you see. Practice the moment in a short Surefoot lesson.
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You just pulled Maya away by asking her to help you with something. The person she was trying to get away from has come after you both.
The person follows and becomes angry. You do not feel safe confronting them.
What is another option?
- Get staff or security to help.
- Challenge them to prove a point.
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Get staff or security to help.
You do not have to handle this alone. Ask for specific help and stay near support. You can create a distraction or ask staff for assistance. Check with your friend, prioritize safety, and do not post recordings of someone’s distress.
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Find staff or security and tell them what you see.
Words you can use
“Come with me for a minute.”
Sources: Right To Be
Questions about “Be the friend who notices.”
Why is getting staff or security better than confronting an angry person directly?
Getting staff or security keeps you and your friend safe while letting trained personnel handle a situation that could escalate into violence.
Source: Right To Be
What should I do if security or staff are not nearby when someone follows us?
If staff or security are not immediately visible, you can create a distraction, move toward a well-lit populated area, or call 911 if you are in immediate danger.
Source: Right To Be
What should I avoid doing when someone becomes angry after an intervention?
You should avoid challenging or arguing with the angry person, and you should never post recordings of someone's distress online.
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How can I support my friend after we get away from the unsafe situation?
You can support your friend by staying near them, checking in on how they are feeling, and prioritizing their physical and emotional safety after the incident.
Source: Right To Be
Last updated October 11, 2026.