Step in with a simple distraction
When someone ignores your friend's attempts to step away or moves in too close, creating a simple distraction takes the focus off your friend and gives them a smooth excuse to walk away1. Using a distraction creates an immediate opening without needing to argue with the person crowding them1.
Walk right up to your friend and use a clear, casual phrase to draw them out of the space1. Follow your friend's lead rather than grabbing them or deciding everything for them1.
- Walk up to your friend with a relaxed, normal tone1.
- Say a simple phrase to give them an exit1.
- Step away together to a quieter, safer area1.
- Check in with your friend to ask what support they want next2.
Words you can use to give your friend an exit
You do not need to explain yourself or confront the harasser to help your friend step away safely1. Use short, direct lines that give your friend an immediate reason to leave the conversation1.
- "Come with me for a minute."
- "Do you want to come over here with me?"
- "Hey, want to come sit with us?1"
- "Come help me for a minute."
Options for different party situations
How you handle the moment depends on whether you feel safe approaching directly or if the person becomes hostile1.
| Situation | Best Action | Words You Can Use |
|---|---|---|
| Friend looks uncomfortable but safe | Offer a private invitation or casual distraction1 | "Do you want to come over here with me?" |
| Group pressuring or surrounding someone | Offer a supportive way to walk away together1 | "Come with me. You don't have to do this." |
| Person follows you or becomes angry | Get campus staff, venue staff, or security immediately1 | "We need staff over here right away." |
What to do if the person becomes angry or follows you
Direct confrontation can escalate tension and increase danger for everyone involved1. If the person follows you, gets hostile, or makes you feel unsafe, do not try to handle it alone1.
Find campus staff, venue staff, or security immediately and tell them what you see1. Getting trained staff keeps you and your friend safe while allowing personnel to handle situations that could turn violent1.
Supporting your friend after stepping away
Once you are both in a safer area, check in with your friend immediately to ask what they need2. Listen to what they want to do next without judging their choices or pressuring them3.
Focus on offering direct support, such as finding a quiet space, getting a ride home, or staying by their side2. Do not film or post videos of someone experiencing distress, as sharing their experience without permission violates their privacy and fails to provide actual help3.
Sources
Written by Surefoot from the sources listed and reviewed before publishing. It is education, not medical or legal advice. If someone is in danger now, call 911.
Last updated October 13, 2026.